Domestic violence continues throughout the United States along with other countries. Many children are left without their parents due to the pain and sometimes death that is caused by domestic violence.
Many people wonder if domestic violence along with other abuses that cause just not the physical pain but the emotional trauma that comes with it. A lot of women will not cry out for help for fear for themselves and most of the time for their children.
Domestic violence goes clear into another form of abuse, which is child abuse. Children are being abused because the parents are using drugs, do not have employment or are in depression and get to the point they do not care. They take it out on the ones they are supposed to love and nurture.
Getting into a relationship many times you do not know that person, as well as you might think you do. If you take the time to meet your partner’s parents and see how they are together you can tell if there is real love there. Are they in love? Still what says what goes on behind closed doors? You have to go on faith, affection, trust and believing in one another. Keep any and all violence and abuse out of your home for your whole family.
Will Domestic Violence Ever Stop? Most likely not...but we can all try harder to keep our home a safe haven for ourselves and for our children. Don’t be afraid to intervene by calling for help if you see abuse happening out your home. If you are a victim, as I write this I beg you to “Get Out”. The abuse will continue regardless if you have been told over and over that they are sorry or that it will not happen again. It will happen again and it can continue until you are no longer apart of this world. If you have children think of the emotional trauma they are going through because their parent is afraid to get free of the abuse they are dealing with.
Open your eyes…Save yourself and save your children. There is help out there. You are never alone.
Abigail,
ReplyDeleteI keep thinking there is hope. Surely, if dv murders have decreased since the 1970's we can also find a way to decrease all of dv, and eventually stop it.
I am convinced that if Christians could be convinced that husband authority is non-scriptural and wrong, that the pressure from Christians to keep women down would not only lift, it would change into helping women up.
To try to make a difference, I wrote a novel "Behind the Hedge," that shows the more subtle forms of abuse in action. On July 24 I am to speak at the Seneca Falls 2 conference in Orlando FL, which is aimed at finding solutions to be effective at stopping gender-inequality in the Christian community. see www.senecafalls2.com
I have no idea where you stand religiously. But I do have a request. The Christians I am trying to convince will never reach out to non-conservative Christians or secular people, yet the conservative Christians are a fairly large group who would be a force to be reckoned with if we could convince them that women are equal and to be treated well. I am asking people of a non-Christian background to consider educating themselves as to the scriptural beliefs of the Christian right regarding gender roles.
I, myself, was of that group at one time, and folks who just dismissed what I believed, or who acted as if they knew what I believed better than I did were such a turn-off and so unhelpful. I think if folks who are not of the Christian right make an effort to befriend women who are imprisoned by the domineering Christian right, that we can better help them get free. As more women of that group are respectfully taught (a thimbleful at a time) what those scriptural passages that they think imprison them actually say/mean, I think we can make huge strides against dv.
When a friend (from the conservative right) of mine was in college, she found out that views that she had, or some variation of them, were also in society. And that is especially so in the devaluing of women. When I facilitated the men's group for the batterers education program, I found that many secular men had the same beliefs that christian men do regarding women. I get the impression that the growing teaching of husband authority in conservative Christian groups is influencing society and greatly contributes to causing domestic violence to increase.
If you want to educate yourself as I suggested, try my blog, http://submissiontyranny.blogspot.com, and check out the blogs on my blog-roll.
Thanks for "listening!"
~Waneta Dawn, author of "Behind the Hedge" see www.wanetadawn.com
Waneta- Please check your facebook messages. I sent you a rely there concerning this subject. Blessings... -Abby
ReplyDelete