Dear Abby-

My world has been flipped upside down, as I am sure you was able to read between the lines. Since my trip to Oregon July 2009 for my 30th Class Reunion (yikes) and also seeing Kaden and Tay. We have had maybe 3 calls from them and every time I called, the grandmother would not answer. Well, the adoption went through, I think in March and she left OR the day after to move to SC. It was still considered an ID adoption as the state of Idaho was supporting them. Anyway, it states in the adoption process you cannot leave the state for 6 months after an adoption. I had emailed her over and over saying I wanted to send some things to the children and needed an address. She would tell me she did not have one. Finally it was after Tay's birthday in March and I told her I wanted to get these things to the kids not only for Tay's birthday but Easter as well. I got an address. I got no response that they got the package except seen pictures on Facebook with the clothes on them I bought. To be honest all I see them in is clothes that I bought. Even the pictures she sent over today. She removed me from her facebook but left it public so all can see pictures. Well a couple I cannot and will not put on there as Kaden had his head shaved and he is the bath tub with one of his cousins and Mike and I believe we are seeing something that we should not be seeing on the Internet let alone our grandson. I have saved the pics to blow them up some to see for sure.

But before all this she emailed me yesterday and told me she does not have to tell me when she receives a box from us and she does not even have to tell the children it is from us. Also, that if I was sending things to make points it was not working so I did not need to keep a tallying score. I have asked to speak to them and she said they do not need turmoil in their lives and that the state took them from us because we were unstable an unsafe environment. Well, if that is so then they would have not only took them but they would have taken their 1/2 brother Brezy, whom we adopted from the state and also my 11 year old son Cole. We were told when they took them that they were not going to allow us to adopt all three because of my RA. It would be too much for me to handle. Well, I had gotten through the tough part 3 babies plus a foster son that came to us at 2, nine months before we got Tay.. So we had 4 in diapers, 2 meth babies, 1 born addicted (Tay) 2 fetal alcohol babies Kaden and Brezden. Our foster son was born with his insides on his outside so he was delicate to take care of. He went home to his birth mom in April 2007. We are still in contact with his bio-mom and have him off and on for a weekend. Brezy lost his brother and sister. He was talking and walking when they left. He quit talking 3 days after they left. Tay was his roll model. Now he has severe issues and on an IEP and attends many therapies and Dev Preschool. Out for the summer but he is in a DT program.

She told me she would never keep us from the children and even if they moved to SC, which she did that we would make arrangements to share them throughout the year and work around their school schedules when need be. Well, she has informed me she does not think it is wise for us to see them as we failed them just like their biological parents and they need parents that have unconditional love for them and we do not have it. So we are not allowed to see them until they are 18. Kaden will be 6 in December and Tay will be 5 in March. That is a bit of a wait.

This finally ate at me and not until my husband broke down and cried last night(which the man does not cry). I said enough is enough and I am going to be heard. I was up until 2 am this morning reading laws and such and in Idaho it states if it is an adoption case all rights for grandparents etc are terminated UNLESS the grandparents had a significant part in the child (ren's) lives.

I am still trying to locate an attorney that works with cases like these and I know they are out there. I think our case goes clear back to when they were all on the Adoption Home Study and we passed and then all of a sudden got one of the three and they separated siblings. Who cares if they had different father's they were altogether since infancy. Kaden came to us at 5 weeks old. Tay once they could no longer flush her system I went with a social worker to the hodpital and took my grandaughter out of my daughters arms. Something the social worker was to do at 3 days old.. Brezden came to us with 2 social workers at our door along with 5 police cars. Guess his bio dad threatened the social workers. He was 3 days old.

Our Governor here in Idaho is a grandfather. He just passed a law on grandparental rights but I have to find out where we stand there. If it is not where we need to stand then I will fight tooth and nail to get this law changed as well. I may not see them until they are 18 but other grandparents may be able to see theirs with me being proactive. There is a grandparents support group but these ones are raising their grandchildren.

Abby, I am not asking for the children back and I do believe that is what the grandmother is afraid of. I just want to be Gamma. She dislikes it that Tay still calls me Mama but that is what I was to them. All foster kids called me Mama or Mama Gee. Mike was always Papa.

I will never get a chance to hug them, hold them, read them a book or watch a movie and pop popcorn with them. Or most of all fix Tay's hair as she was always our Princess Taylor. Kaden was Mike's Little Warrior. Kaden has aspbergers and they are ignoring it. Tay likes all medications. Does not matter what kind they are. (due to the meth addiction). I have a mother dying soon of lung cancer and she will not see her great gradbabies again before she passes. THIS IS SO UNFAIR!

She told me we were unstable. Well we stayed in one place with them the whole time with us. They said we were unsafe. Go figure. She has moved 5 times in less than 2 years and also lived where rattlesnakes sat on her back porch by the door. Also Tay was out in the yard and sat on a garden snake and her grandmother laughed about it. So that is safe environment?

I am hot right now and I not only want to see rights changed for Mike and I and Brezy too but also for all the grandparents out there that deserve to see their grandchildren. I can understand if it is high risk for endangerment just like how it goes with some marriages that end in divorce and it is not best for the children to see their father or mother.

I did not expect to get the support I have received through emails and facebook. I am not looking for a "Poor Glenda" drama. I am looking for ones that will stand up with me and fight not only the judicial system that has caused so much pain but also the people in the children's life that really are doing more harm than good.

I also look at the fact that the children are loved there and they are doing well. I praise her for that but still they are also my grandchildren and I should be able to be apart of their lives.

Well, I hope you can understand what I have written. I am a bit on the rumble right now. I am open to any suggestions. I will be calling around for attorneys that are not afraid to take on any visitation rights for the grandparents. Might take me a few hours to find one. I know I will.

Keep us in prayer. I feel sad for my husband. I have seen him cry maybe 3 times in 15 years. I have two boxes full of pictures of the babies and many cd's. I am a grandma unstable and unsafe???Yeah right! I think someone is scared and overly jealous.

Thank you for your support,

I am going to see where I get with an attorney and if nowhere I am going to write the Govenor and if no place with him then I will sit on his doorstep and I will let him know I will go to congress and I will go to the President of USA. Mike had planned on buying me a new vehicle this coming March but I see where the spare change will go. I will not stop until I get visitation rights, calls etc from my precious grandbabies.

On a happy note. Crystal their bio mom lives in OH and has been raising Brezden's full sister Jennaca. She is 2. Anyway. Crystal is due in September and has decided to let me name the baby girl she will be having. I have decided on Samari Raine. Crystal liked it very much.

Blessings with love,
Glenda




This is a cry for help. If any of my readers are of the Attorney niche, and can help, pro bono, please contact me at abigaillurae@live.com I will gladly relay any and all information.

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Beating Caught on Tape: Teacher Speaks

There are clearly laws for the issue of child abuse and one of them is, parents aren't allowed to spank or strike their child. If they do, they are instantly arrested, put in jail and lose their children to CPS. The teacher, who appeared on Good Morning America, May 19th, 2010 had no right whatsoever to intimidate, strike... Or beat on that child, regardless of the circumstances that led up to that event. There are no excuses at all for her actions.
So what if the atmosphere was in a disruptive chaos and there was another fight before she took her anger out on the student? How many families have started their mornings off with children fighting and screaming, or a husband and wife going through the same kind of chaos before being able to go about their own individual day?
As for protecting the new child, why did she, or the other teacher, not get that child separated from the other students who taunted and mimicked that child?
There is so very much wrong with her excuses via putting the blame on others not stepping in, or the schools lack of security, along with blaming the parents. None of this has anything to do with her lack of self-control!
She says, she’s a mother herself- how does she deal with her anger when her children manage to hit that magical fired up button filled with adrenaline?
There are way too many parents out here whom have been arrested and lost their children for a lot less. Why has she not been jailed?
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1st ANNUAL CHILDRENS VOICES 4 JUDICIAL CHANGE (CV4JC)

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The UNANSWERED CRIES of our nations children have been lost in the broken Family Courts for too long. This is beyond a National issue, it is Global issue with devastating repercussions for the Children of the World. Some families paying the ultimate priceONES LIFE. Let it begin with us and we will bring it to your shores.

Come together in agreement and join our efforts for JUDICIAL CHANGE and to put an end to THE UNDECLAIRED WAR AGAINST OUR NATIONS CHILDREN...COURT SANCTIONED CHILD ABUSE.

The 1st ANNUAL CHILDRENS VOICES 4 JUDICIAL CHANGE (CV4JC) Rally down in Washington D.C. w/the tentative dates of May 18th-20th 2010
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Dance in the House

I’ve been all over the internet, trying to research why children and teenagers become as violent as they do. Along with my research, I’ve found very little on an issue I hold close to my heart- “Special Needs.” These people who did, “their homework,” (supposedly,) come up with the excuses- the kids are on either drugs, or alcohol- or the reason is due to being from a broken home, abused and abandoned. In their research, I have to wonder what the statistics are for the children whom were yanked out of their homes and placed within the system? (That, to me, would be enough to make the child to go off of the deep-end!) The government pays, $2,000.00 dollars more per month for children whom are, or displays, “special needs.” And, if you are wondering? YES! There are children whom are improperly misdiagnosed, just so these people can collect on them.

But, what I want to talk about right now, is the ones whom really are, “Special Needs,” along with the impact of how they can potentially become violent, not just with circumstantial incidences, (if Social Services gets involved,) but, with their own loving family, who does not exhibit any forms of what can be considered as abuse. Unless, you want to say, “spoiling them to death,” (and give CPS time, they’ll use that against someone!)

I’m going to share a part of my life with everyone and the world. *chuckle* I have a teenage son whom is, “Special Needs.” He’s a great kid, however, trust me, it hasn’t been easy with him. His behaviors he displays here at home, makes me think about the children and teens whom are dealt a raw hand through what is supposedly to, “save them.”

So to the educators of the sites I’ve visited, and those whom really haven’t done their homework- you’re partially right, but you need to post the whole truth, and nothing but the truth!!

Abby’s Life with the one who puts the dance in the house- I had a dream…

(The Dream)
Inside the church with it's tall hand carved arches inlaid with golden leaves, the sunshine filtered through the stained glass image of Mother Mary, then gently caressed the infant's cheek.
The priest dabbed his fingertips in the basin of holy water that had been placed upon an alter. He extended his hand to mark the baptism with the sign of the cross upon the baby's forehead. All was calm… all was peaceful.
Suddenly from out of nowhere, brilliant flames of red, orange, and yellow shot up from the innocent face of the child, causing the priest's hand to burn as if it were made of wax and his fingertips were the wicks of candles.
"Demon child! Demon child," he screamed in a high pitched keening as he jerked his hand back while the flames continued upward to consume his arm- then his entire being as he reeled backwards and spun around while screaming continuously until all at once- silence.
… It was then she woke from her sleep, shaking from the nightmare.

(Reality)

This dream occurred in the fifth month of the child being in her womb. Not understanding it's meaning, she tried to shove it out of her thoughts, "demon child, demon child," her mind whispered. "No," she whispered back, "t'was only a dream." No matter what she tried to do, the dream would not go away and her soul felt much like it had been set on fire- just like the priest who had been consumed by the flames. "Demon child, demon child," her mind continued to whisper.
Four months later her son was born. The birth was more painful than what she had experienced with her other children, who were now full grown. It felt as if her insides were being torn and ripped apart, only to leave a hollow spot, one that she prayed would no longer hurt. Images of a demon's face played in her mind until he was placed in her arms and she saw his sweet innocent face.
Soon though, all fears of that horrible nightmare passed and she enjoyed being a mother to her child. He was such a good baby and would play quietly in his crib. His development seemed normal and on target as he grew.
At fourteen months of age, a change came about, and the dream that had silenced itself in her mind, reared its ugly head once more, but this time the meaning behind it became crystal clear to her. Toys would become weapons in his tiny little hands as he would take aim, then throw with such unusual accuracy for his age. All the while, the gleam of an evil entity could be seen in his eyes. The objects would strike with such a force that she would cry out in pain and he would laugh- such a hideous laugh. "Demon child, demon child," the voice in her mind whispered as she sobbed but- she didn't want to believe it. His behavior was continuously becoming worse as each new development of his childhood bloomed and she was worried.
When he turned four years old, not only was he potentially dangerous to himself, but was deadly dangerous to others around him. Nothing could be put high enough away from him or his sight. Knives became his favorite "no-no's". Learning to move and duck rather quickly became habit, and the sense that she was not alone in a room caused her to not stay in one spot for very long at a time. Constant motion was required at all times.
Her kitchen soon became a fortress with locks placed on every cupboard door as well as the drawers where the silverware was kept. The only two drawers that didn’t require the restriction of a lock were where her towels and dishrags lay hap-hazard from him happily tossing them out on the floor. She didn’t have the time to refold them after she picked them up as he was into something else so she’d just stuff them back in their rightful place. The refrigerator too, soon took on a bright red bungee cord around it with the hooks placed in the back beyond his reach. The knobs on her stove had to be pulled off and locked away- only one was used and then hidden to keep him from being tempted to turn it on and hurt himself.
She had put him in the Head Start program through the school that year then hoped and prayed this environment would help him settle down some. It didn't… His behaviors were questionable, and the reflection fell on her and her parenting skills. So many times she had been called into the school for a conference about what her son had done to another child or how he would not focus and try to learn or stay in his seat. She took him to the doctor to see what was the matter with him, and the doctor only stated, "you have an active child, it's normal behavior for this age." Normal behavior? She thought not! "Demon child, demon child," her mind whispered again. She was beginning to think it were true.
Continuing her search to find other doctors, specialists, anyone who could help her understand why his behavior was considered "normal," was very taxing on the whole family, not to mention finances. All she encountered was, "he's fine, just an overly active child." Finally when she was ready to give up, she encountered a doctor who said that her son definitely displayed problematic behaviors, but nothing could be done for him until he was six years old. With extensive testing, this doctor diagnosed her son as having ADHD, (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), but in the meantime, she just had to grin and bear with it.
Going and talking with his teachers, she managed to get it across to them that he didn't learn his behaviors at home, and that there was hope for him in the future. It had a name and it wasn't any longer, "Demon child."

************************************************

A lot of parents whom have, “Special Needs,” kids, feel like they were cursed for something they had done in their life because the behaviors can get extremely hard to deal with. I know, because this is the way I felt for a long time. However, I was blessed with God putting an angel in my life whom became my friend and told me like it was. She told me, “now get over yourself! God has special children and He only entrusts these special souls with special people to take care of them for Him. You were chosen by God for such a task.”
Every now and then, I have to keep reminding myself of what my friend had told me because my son has gone from ADHD to ODD, (Oppositional Defiant Disorder,) to Schizophrenia with ADHD and finally, Severely Bipolar with ADHD. We have been through the paces with him all of these years.
I will say one thing though, God has been with us every step of the way and has taught me to utilize love, patience and understanding for this precious, “special” child. Our days are getting easier and easier as I think maturity is starting to blossom a little bit more. My son loves the Lord and tries his hardest to do what is right. For all of the hard work that has gone into his upbringing, I have been truly blessed with being the caretaker of this wonderful soul.

How many parents have a, “Special,” child and how many have been lost to a cold-hearted system? Then they, (social workers and officials,) all stand around and wonder, “why?”  "They," can collect money until a certain age- what happens to our, "Special," ones and just how many have been in thier care?  All in, "for the good of the child?" 

Teens and Violence

With increasing industrialization and urbanization, as well as the disappearing family unit and community social structures, more and more youth find themselves without social supports, adequate nurturing from parents, and the ability to function in school settings. At the same time, they may experience a growing dependency on drugs and alcohol. Without a strong family unit, at-risk teens are attracted to the street gang “family” lifestyle.
Youth experience increased freedom from parental scrutiny, and with this freedom comes an opportunity to become involved in socially unacceptable activities. Peers have tremendous influence among their fellow teens and a juvenile’s behavior is often dictated by whether their peer group is involved in drugs, gangs, and other forms of antisocial behavior (Juvenile Justice in America, 333).
The more of these factors that are present in a teen’s life, the more likely it is that he or she will become involved in problem behavior.

Teen violence statistics

Fifty percent of men who abuse their spouse will abuse their children. As sad as it sounds, three million children are at risk of being assaulted by a parent each year. A teen growing up with their mother being abused will more likely be a violent teenager and adult, than a teen that grows up in a loving home. Forty per cent of teenage girls have friends that have been a victim of some violent act. One in five high school girls has been in a violent relationship with a boy. Teen violence has been a problem for a long time but statistic show that this problem is growing and getting more violent each year. Understand that it is a serious problem and we need to not take it lightly. - http://www.at-risk.org/blame.html

In 1996, 63% of the juvenile domestic violence charges filed, were against juveniles who assaulted their mother or father. As of today, these numbers have increased dramatically by 1 in 7 families where either parent is assaulted by their child, ages ranging between 10-18 years old.

Children in foster care at greater risk for crime:
Children who stay in the homes of even troubled families are likely to fare better in life than if they are put into foster care, a new US study released Tuesday found.
"Kids in a foster care are three times more likely to become juvenile delinquents" than other at-risk young people whom social workers opt to leave with their biological families, said professor Joseph Doyle, of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology's (MIT) Sloan School of Management.
His data shows 44 percent of children placed in foster care are arrested at least once, while the same was only true of 14 percent of children who stayed with their biological families, even when they are severely stressed.
About 56 percent of girls placed in foster care become pregnant as teens while the same was true of 33 percent of girls with their own families, even troubled ones.
"Child protection and family protection are two competing goods. Everybody wants both and in some case you have to pick one or the other," said Doyle, whose study tracked 15,000 children between 1999-2002.
"My research suggests that we should probably be pushing more toward family preservation at least in terms of the outcomes that I studied in the paper," he said. - http://rawstory.com/news/afp/Children_in_foster_care_at_greater__07032007.html

What is Going on With Our Youth?

See this picture? What is our world coming to when the younger generation posts this and thinks it's funny? I- particularity, don't like it...

The description of this doll is now,

"New Jersey Shores Barbie in production"

Do you find this acceptable?

Child Exploitation Investigator Found Killed in Home

	Child Exploitation Investigator Found Killed in Home   By Victor Thorn Child trafficking, pedophile rings, sexual exploitation, teenage pornography and even organ harvesting: These types of crimes make Washington politicians recoil in horror. But when these terrible acts involve some of their own, it also drives the elites to silence those who attempt to expose their dirty deeds. Nancy Schaefer served two terms as a Georgia state senator, in addition to being a highly respected family rights advocate, founder of the Eagle Forum and Sunday school teacher. Mrs. Schaefer spoke out against abortion and sought legislation to display the Ten Commandments in public buildings. On March 26, a sleeping Mrs. Schaefer was found shot to death from behind in her bed, along with her husband, who also perished after receiving a gunshot wound to the chest. Local authorities immediately ruled it a “murder-suicide” instigated by her husband of 52 years, but there is much more to the story than law enforcement is telling. Initially, Georgia’s Bureau of Investigation claimed the couple formed a death pact due to poor health and financial woes. However, family members fervently disagreed with these attempts to create a motive by floating fabricated stories. Neither of the deceased had a terminal illness, their bank accounts were sound, and, as committed Christians, they opposed suicide. During an April 22 interview with this writer, Ohio radio talk show host Paul Drockton presented a shocking alternative to the official version. “I heard from a couple of different sources that Mrs. Schaefer was working on a documentary, and intended to go public by exposing a high-level pedophilia ring,” said Drockton. When asked if people would be familiar with the politicians named, Drockton replied in the affirmative, although he wouldn’t divulge their identities. This writer assumed they were nationally known figures. Drockton added, “Mrs. Schaefer was extremely nervous about being assassinated. On a recent trip to Washington, she booked three rooms at her hotel—one on each side of her own, for security purposes. Mrs. Schaefer also started using disposable cell phones because she felt her lines were being tapped.” In hindsight, these concerns most certainly appear justified. Over the past few years, Mrs. Schaefer engaged in a high-profile campaign against Georgia’s Child Protective Services (CPS). During an April 14, 2009, presentation, Mrs. Schaefer called CPS “a protected empire built on taking children and separating families. It is one of the most evil and corrupt branches of government in America.” She also accused them of “legally kidnapping” the children of poor families who couldn’t afford attorneys in order to fill bureaucratic quotas under Bill Clinton’s Adoption and Safe Families Act. Mrs. Schaefer provided the grisly details. “Cash bonuses are paid to the state for every child that is adopted out of foster care. Oftentimes, the amount is $4,000 to $6,000, with an extra $2,000 for special-needs children.” Mrs. Schaefer continued: “To make more money, they need more merchandise; and children equal merchandise. They also need a large selection of children for potential adoptions so that buyers have more to choose from.” CPS therefore acts as a facilitator, using the court system to snatch children from their parents, then feeding them into foster care for eventual adoption. Mrs. Schaefer cited numerous dangers to this corrupt arrangement. A 1998 study by the National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect stated that six times more youths die in foster care than in the general public. They are also more prone to sexual molestation by pedophiles in the foster care system. Many children simply disappear. Considering the monetary incentives surrounding a business of trafficking in children by converting them into cash, did CPS open the floodgates to even more widespread wrong doing—one that resembled the notorious “Franklin Affair”? Did powerful politicians operating a high-level child pedophilia ring clean house to prevent Mrs. Schaefer’s film from seeing the light of day? Online commentator Steven Erickson offered this response on April 2, noting that Mrs. Schaefer attended a special hearing in the Netherlands. “Nancy was recently the victim of murder,” wrote Erickson. “Her husband is said to have been the killer in a murder-suicide. Some may think it is a murder-for-hire, paid for by police or insiders in Georgia government allegedly involved in official kidnapping for federal tax dollars. Are children being trafficked for white slavery, sex exploitation, for bogus adoption, and to give political insiders six-figure salaries paid for with taxes? Are the police in some states involved in drug dealing, prostitution, racketeering, obstruction of justice, murder, rape, extortion and other crimes? Are American courts a scam? Nancy was pretty high profile, making serious allegations, and she ends up dead. Do the math.” The broader question remains: Did corruption end at the Georgia state level, or were Mrs. Schaefer’s sights set even higher? During her Netherlands World Congress of Families speech last year, Mrs. Schaefer specifically described U.S. government involvement in human trafficking. Considering the huge amounts of bloodstained dollars at stake, not to mention the lengthy prison sentences awaiting each guilty party, it’s clear she may have been a prime target for retaliation. Washington politicians have long concealed a cesspool of child “call boys.” A few names that come to mind include Paul Bonacci, who was kidnapped and sold as a sex slave; Barney Frank’s homosexual lover, who operated a prostitution service, Larry King of the Franklin Cover-Up; and Jeff Gannon, a planted White House “reporter” who operated a homosexual escort service. Then, of course, The Washington Times ran the following headline on June 29, 1989: “Homosexual Prostitution Inquiry Ensnares VIPs with Reagan, Bush.” Former Nebraska state patrolman Gary Caradori, during an investigation of the Franklin Cover-Up case, was murdered on June 11, 1990, after having his airplane sabotaged. Mrs. Schaefer seems to have suffered the same fate, except her cowardly killers used a bullet in her back to ensure her silence. Victor Thorn is a hard-hitting researcher, journalist and the author of many books on 9-11 and the New World Order. These include 9-11 Evil: The Israeli Role in 9-11 and Phantom Flight 93. Subscribe to American Free Press. Online subscriptions: One year of weekly editions—$15 plus you get a BONUS ELECTRONIC BOOK - HIGH PRIESTS OF WAR - By Michael Piper. Print subscriptions: 52 issues crammed into 47 weeks of the year plus six free issues of Whole Body Health: $59  Order on this website or call toll free 1-888-699-NEWS . Sign up for our free e-newsletter here - get a free gift just for signing up! (Issue # 19, May 12, 2010)
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