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Don't Give Up Hope...

Most children who were separated from their own biological family at any point in their life, for one reason or another, will want to go out and find their blood relatives. I know this to be true because I spent many years trying to find my own, God given parents and siblings. It was an uncontrollable driving force within my entire being. Once I found them, so much of myself came to light and I felt complete as a human being.

I have found a song by Phil Collins that describes how I felt when I first found the ending to my life-time search and how I feel today.

Don't ever give up hope with the separation of family, whether parents searching for their children, or vise-a-versa. Give a listen to the youtube clip below and see how Mr. Collins was so eloquently able to put into lyrics...

Phil Collins-Everything that I am

Food for Thought...

There is so very much inspiration in these words along with a tremendous amount of food for thought...

Thank You and..

I want to take this time to thank everyone that is following my discussions on blogfrog and this blog.  

Domestic Violence is a very important issue, not only with making others aware of it in one month span, out of the year, but all year long!  This issue doesn't stop, just during the month of October...

With the holiday season fast approaching, Domestic Violence is on the rise, more so, than any other time reported, and especially more now, due to the economic situations.  One, out of every three families, will be affected by domestic abuse!  Staggering facts, but true ones indeed.

It affects children, teens and adults...  What can you do, to help those who really need some help?

Social Services and you reporting it, is not the answer as they have their own hidden agenda's- the government?  Forget it!!  The answer is, family, friends  and other people reaching out to help those who need a helping hand up and not just a hand out, will be the deciding factor in who survives and who doesn't!

We survivors, have been there, done that, don't want to go there ever again, and we want to help those who need our help!!  Adopt a family and set the course for a more peaceful society...  I'm a fighter- how about you?

HELPFUL HOLIDAY HINTS

The holiday season is approaching fast, and for some, it becomes one of the most grueling painful sentences of surviving.  Not only is the economy, with their soaring prices pushing people's spirits down, but the families who have to endure the holidays without their children, due to various reasons of an insane Social Service system, well... what should be joyous becomes heart-wrenching.  So for this, Survivors Holding Tight has put together a small list of  HELPFUL HINTS TO SURVIVE THIS TIME OF YEAR.

1.) Don’t get drunk by yourself! This causes you to think and ‘cry in your beer.’ If you do drink, be around others who makes you laugh! This is a must because you need to be around people who will help you keep your mind on other things.  You need to socialize.

2.) Don’t be by yourself! Be around others who makes you laugh! Allow yourself to laugh!

3.) Give yourself permission to go out and enjoy what you like to do.

4.) Give yourself permission to enjoy the holiday season regardless of the situation.

5.) If you’re not allowed to be with your children on Thanksgiving or Christmas day, stay out of the kid isles in the stores! Bypass them all together! 

6.) If you just can’t get your children out of your mind for awhile each day, sit down and write a letter to them, or make something you know they’d love to have.  Get crafty!  This also will help during this economic time and give you inspiration for making your own gifts to be given out to others on your gift giving list.

7.) Get outdoors if the weather permits and take along a headset you can listen to while you walk or jog. Choose music that inspires you and avoid music that brings you down with memories. Also, choose new music, not what the kids liked or would like.  Take along a camera and capture some beautiful scenery or whatever catches your eye.  Allow yourself to be distracted from what is usually on your mind.

8.) Most importantly of all…… PRAY FOR STRENGTH AND GUIDANCE- TO MAKE IT THROUGH YOUR DAYS.

9.)  Know you have support here, not only in this blog, but other blogs and friends as well.  Keep in touch and let us know how you're doing.

Blessings to everyone and we here at Survivors Holding Tight will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER

The funny thing, about parent's intentions and learning how to continue on via gaining a life after their children are taken from them for bogus reasons- for them  to keep on living and surviving with HOPE, (especially with  hope to explain and change the reason,)- those, (the children,) who have been involved within society's structure- just can't seem to forgive.  No matter, what the parent has been through and no matter how much the parent has fought for them.   Everything seems to be lost when it comes to eventually getting a hold of them when they're of age, or even communicating with the ones who know and witnessed what the parents went through.  By the time this all can come about, the child is usually grown, has their own opinions and  become JUDGE and JURY!  The parent suffers, twice over.

What do you do?  Unfortunately, once a kid is put into the system, the family has to wait until this child becomes of age.  They've already been programmed into believing what they have been told all of their life and more than likely, it's something completely against your character.

But, what happens, when a child is a victim of circumstance, is returned to their parent while their siblings are taken because the younger siblings were of, "adoptable age," and the eldest was too old to be adopted out?  What if that child holds anger, but will deny this fact?  And... what if this child was upset in the fact of the parent speaking out?

They're angry because the parent couldn't keep them together- they're angry because they were too old to be adopted.  They forget to see what the parent has been through, how the parent has fought and what makes them the angriest is, the parent has continued, his/her life, just to stay alive and have some sort of, HOPE in the process..

To these kids- trust me, hearts are so broken during the process of Social Services and... due to lies- more often than not.  Parents get so tired of dealing with them.  Families who have been victimized  by the Social Services Department- people have to learn how to contine on- unless the main intention is to watch parents  kill themselves.

A Note to you kids, who have witnessed what your parents have gone through- forgive them for thier downfalls- for being human!  I bet, you will make many mistakes too.  Your parents have fought tooth and nail for you, but it gets hard when you're fighting, "society."   It is not to you to be, judge and jury.  They have tried- more beyond your comprehention to bring you home.  ONCE A CHILD IS IN THE SYSTEM, regardles if they're returned or not, learn to forgive your parent for being a parent.    Give them a chance.

For the adult kids- if your mother/father gets a hold of you, don't jusge them, but understand where they come from. Learn to forgive them of their mistakes, and listen to their heart... BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER...